The First 30 Days: Essential Checklist

This comprehensive checklist will help you navigate the immediate practical tasks after losing your spouse. Remember: you don't have to do everything at once. Focus on what's urgent and ask for help.

You Can Do This

This list may feel overwhelming. That's normal. Do what you can when you can. Many of these items can wait. Focus on immediate needs first.

Immediate (First 3 Days)

These tasks should be handled right away or within the first few days.

Contact family and close friends to notify them of the death
Make funeral arrangements or confirm existing pre-arranged plans
Order 10-15 certified death certificates from funeral home or vital records office
Secure the home and valuables (change locks if needed)
Care for pets and arrange for their immediate needs
Locate important documents: will, life insurance policies, bank statements, Social Security cards

Week 1: Critical Tasks

Handle these within the first week if possible.

Contact Social Security Administration at 1-800-772-1213 to report death and apply for survivor benefits and $255 death benefit
Notify employer and ask about final paycheck, unused vacation pay, and benefits
Contact life insurance companies to initiate claims (employer policy and any private policies)
Contact banks and credit unions to secure joint accounts and safe deposit boxes
Locate the will and contact the attorney who prepared it
Contact Veterans Affairs (if applicable) at 1-800-827-1000 for burial benefits and survivor benefits
Cancel health insurance for deceased while ensuring your own coverage continues
Stop automatic payments from spouse's accounts (subscriptions, bills, etc.)

Weeks 2-4: Important Follow-ups

These tasks are important but can typically wait a few weeks.

Meet with estate attorney to file will for probate (many states require filing within 10-30 days)
Contact retirement plan administrators (401k, IRA, pension) to understand beneficiary options
Notify credit card companies and close or transfer accounts as appropriate
Contact mortgage lender to discuss payment options and refinancing if needed
Notify utilities, phone, and internet providers to transfer accounts to your name
Contact car insurance to update policy and remove deceased from coverage
Update beneficiaries on your own life insurance, retirement accounts, and bank accounts
Cancel subscriptions and memberships (gym, clubs, magazines, streaming services)
Check for unclaimed property or benefits at unclaimed.org

Beyond 30 Days: When You're Ready

These tasks are important but don't need to be rushed.

File final tax return for deceased (due by April 15 of following year)
Transfer vehicle title to your name at DMV
Transfer property deed to your name (consult attorney)
Review and update your own will and estate plan
Create a new budget based on your current income and expenses
Delete or memorialize social media accounts according to your wishes
Consider grief counseling or joining a support group

Self-Care Checklist

Don't forget to take care of yourself. These are just as important as paperwork.

Eat at least one meal per day (ask friends to bring food)
Try to sleep (talk to doctor if you can't sleep for more than a few days)
Accept help when people offer (let them cook, clean, run errands)
Give yourself permission to grieve however feels right for you
Postpone major decisions (selling house, moving, career changes) for at least 6 months if possible
Call someone if you're feeling overwhelmed: Friend, family, or crisis line (988)

Need Help?

Crisis Support: Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline)

Social Security: 1-800-772-1213

Veterans Benefits: 1-800-827-1000

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